Your wellbeing · 2 min read
Looking after your own wellbeing
When you're worried about someone else, your own needs can slip quietly out of view. Looking after yourself isn't selfish. It's part of getting through a difficult time.
Notice how you're doing
Common signs of strain include poor sleep, irritability, anxiety, low mood, physical tension and withdrawing from friends. These are understandable responses to an ongoing stressful situation.
Protect the basics
Sleep, food, movement and time outdoors can feel trivial when things are hard, but they help sustain you.
Stay connected
Isolation tends to make everything heavier. Talking to someone you trust, or to people who have been through something similar, can bring real relief.
Make room for your own life
Keeping hold of your work, interests and relationships is not a betrayal of your loved one.
Know when to seek more support
If you're struggling to cope day to day, speak to your GP. If you're having thoughts of harming yourself, contact Samaritans on 116 123 at any time, or call 999 if you are in danger.
Key considerations
- Your wellbeing matters in its own right, not only for how it affects others.
- Family support groups exist specifically for people in your situation.
- Small, regular steps are more sustainable than big changes.
Suggested next steps
- Complete the self-care checklist.
- Tell one trusted person how you're really doing.
- Find a family support group near you or online.
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