Impact on families · 2 min read
Shame, guilt and stigma
Many people affected by someone else's addiction carry shame or guilt, and may worry about what others will think. These feelings are common, and they can keep people from reaching out.
Where guilt comes from
Families often ask themselves what they could have done differently. Addiction has many causes, and no single person is responsible for another adult's addiction.
The weight of stigma
Negative attitudes towards addiction can make families feel judged or isolated. This can lead to secrecy, which in turn makes it harder to get support.
Language matters
Describing someone as "a person experiencing addiction" rather than using labels can help keep their wider identity in view.
Breaking the silence
Talking to even one trusted person, or to others with similar experiences, can ease the burden considerably.
Key considerations
- You didn't cause it, and you can't control or cure it alone.
- You can choose who you tell and how much you share.
- Support services are confidential.
Suggested next steps
- Try a family support group, where everyone understands.
- Read about looking after your own wellbeing.
- Use the self-care checklist.
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